Today, I ran into an old high school friend. She was super smart in high school, and became my best friend very quickly. I ended up leaving the school after that year. We hadn’t stayed in contact because we didn’t have phones at the time and we forgot to give each other our emails.
Today, I saw her for the first time since I had left for that summer. She’s successful and done with college. She’s working a remote job and seems to have life pretty put together.
As I was talking to her about her life, I started paying less and less attention to her life, and more to my outfit. All I could think was: I’m a barista…
I’m not working a fancy job, never got to do running start. Hell, I never even went to college. So here we were, just how I expected us to be. She was successful and I was not.
However, that’s not the truth.
Yes, all of that happened, but just because I didn’t go to college or have some fancy job doesn’t make me any less successful than her. I would consider myself a very well rounded person. I’ve learned how to take care of myself. This last year was so growth filled, that there was no way that I could just disregard the fact that my life isn’t successful in the way hers was.
This isn’t her fault nor is it the first time this thought has crossed my mind. A lot of people I know from high school are engaged, married, having babies, and doing so many amazing things in their lives. As I have gotten older, I really have realized how easy it is to compare your life to others.
Many times I feel as if I am I reminded that I didn’t take the life path that most people do. I know plenty of people in my life who have experienced both sides of this. I say if you’re doing something you enjoy, and are making something out of yourself: you are doing amazing.
Just because your life doesn’t look EXACTLY like everyone else’s, doesn’t mean that you are doing a bad job or that you’re not successful.
Success is based on how YOU feel. Take for example this blog: Sure in terms of other blogs this isn’t “successful” however, there was a time in my life where I would have never put my thoughts out on the internet like this at all. So making this blog successful to myself. I’ve put a lot of work into this, and I refuse to just say that it’s “not successful” because I’m not making money off of this or getting reposted.
I feel like a lot of society has really put a lot of pressure on themselves as well as others to be more successful than others. In terms of money, physical attributes, what they are and are not doing in their lives, etc.
I guess my main point of all of this is: You are successful, you just aren’t focusing on the right thing to say that you are successful.
I’m truly thankful for the growth that has happened in what I believe in myself as well as my outlook on life. I feel like it would’ve been worse if I hadn’t worked on myself as much as I have.
The world used to be a lot darker in terms of what I believed about myself in relations to others. I’m also very proud of how far I’ve come in terms of success. I really believe that I am a successful human.
I hope you are proud of yourself too.
The song vibe right now: https://youtu.be/KA1LYTWtVQ0
