So I got dumped, and as weird as it is… It’s been the best thing to ever happen to me. I haven’t been as happy with my life and looking forward to what is happening in my life more than I have right now.
Letting go are the two words I feel like I need to be sharing with this. The world has so much in store for you if you let go of your control every once in a while. It has been the only thing getting me through everything going on in my life.
That being said, I’ve kind of just let the world and God show me what they have in store for me and what I’m supposed to do.
A lot of the times I have been known to run away during hard situations because it’s easier to run then to deal. For example I moved schools a lot when I was a kid and I loved reinventing myself whenever I was displeased with who I was because the people that were new in my life didn’t know who I was.
Similarly if I moved states no one would know that I was recently dumped and I could reinvent who I was. No one knew what we were like together, they wouldn’t know how good of a couple we were, people wouldn’t know anything except for a new me. I feel that’s a normal response with most people who maybe have moved a lot or some kind of trauma response.
That being said during the relationship and even right after I always thought that the only option I had to get over him or feel better is if I ran away and moved states.
The main reason I felt like it would be my time to run out of state was because so much of him is tied from everything in my house, to everything in my neighborhood, even my job. He’s everywhere in my life it feels like. Plus I’ve always wanted to move to California, and he never wanted to leave the state so maybe part of it was kind of like, “Fuck you now I can do whatever I want”
The bonus is the fact that I’m just so much happier in the sun and Washington is such a rainy state, it felt unfair making myself be here for any longer than I let myself be tied to this state.
But of course God had other plans for me…
Within the first couple of weeks of being broken up with so many doors opened for me. Which is amazing, and definitely gave me more to look forward to. Like I got my license, my car is in the near future, I’m in the process of being promoted, and my grandma is going to help me with college.
Again… This all happened after the break up within the first couple of weeks. It felt like a punch to the face where God was like, “See, I told you you just needed to trust me in what I had in store for you.”
My faith has been getting stronger and my life has just been getting better and better with each day. My mental health is at a peak as a whole too. I’m not as depressed nor am I as anxious.
Not to mention the freedom I feel within my life, not to say my ex was controlling, because he wasn’t (if anything I was the one who had control issues). I just feel like there’s so much more out there for me as a single woman again.
Moral of the story, when a big change happens in your life that seems negative, trust that God knows what is best for you, and that he has good things in store for you.
It gets better I promise, no matter what the problem may be. I got broken up with on September 27, 2021 it’s been 44 days and to be completely honest I don’t miss my ex. I don’t even feel sad about the break up and I thought it would’ve taken me to move out of state for me to feel remotely better about the break up. I bounced back into a better me within like two weeks of the break up.
Granted when rough things happen, it’s going to take everyone a different amount of time. We all have different journeys, and if it takes you longer than 44 days, don’t beat yourself up. I think I bounced back way faster than the average person, so it might take you longer than that, and that’s ok. Maybe it’ll take you less than that, and that’s also awesome.
I felt like I needed to share what has happened through my break up and how I got back out of that because I felt like I was meant to share it for other people going through the same thing as me or even just rough times in general.
Remember you can do all things through God.
The song vibe right now: (I have two this time)
